How To Create the Perfect Wedding Ceremony

A wedding is a celebration of Love. Whether you are planning a small intimate gathering or a large ...

How To Create the Perfect Wedding Ceremony
Celebrating Your Love with the Ideal Ceremony
A wedding is a celebration of Love. Whether you are planning a small intimate gathering or a large banquet, a traditional religious service or a unique spiritual ritual, the ceremony is truly its' centerpiece. Oftentimes in planning this special life passage, questions about the date, the place, your wedding party, the menu, the cost, the music and the flowers overshadow the creation of the ceremony. The truth is, creating your ceremony is meaningful and rewarding, since the result is a ceremony truly reflecting who you are as a couple and your vision of your marriage.
First take a deep breath and trust that as you journey through this creative process you are indeed creating a beautiful and meaningful ceremony. Allow for time to experiment with ideas, and trust your heart in guiding you. The ceremony you actually end up with may look very different than where you started; and it is also possible that the first ideas you jot down will be perfect. Leave yourselves plenty of time and know that this is a work in progress - maybe even until your wedding day. You may come across a poem the day before the ceremony that makes your heart sing. That is okay, just be sure to let your minister, rabbi or officiant know that anything and everything is subject to change.
Generating information: You do this by asking yourselves questions and allowing the creative process free reign with your answers. This is both a brainstorming activity to come up with as many ideas as possible and a chance for you and your fiancé to express your particular ideas about marriage and your ceremony. It is essential at this stage is to remember that answering these questions is simply the initial stage of generating information. Don't feel pressured to decide exactly what will be included in the ceremony and who is going to say what and when, In fact it is best not to make specific decisions at the same time you are initially expressing ideas. This crucial information generating stage gives you a chance to explore the various ideas and components you are considering as part of your unique wedding ceremony. This is a time when all ideas are allowed. If you and your fiancé are doing this on your own - without an officiant - it is best to individually write down your answers before you begin discussing them. Then share your responses to one questions at a time. Otherwise, it is too easy to get overwhelmed and frustrated with all the possibilities. When I work with a couple to design their ceremony, I ask them not to discuss their answers until we actually meet, and then I allow time to hear each of their responses question by question, noting where there is agreement, differences of opinion and strong feelings. Warning: This stage is fertile ground for conflict since you and your fiancé may have very different ideas about your ceremony. So, B R E A T H E and be clear that your intention is to listen to one another's thoughts. If you notice yourself becoming defensive or feeling hurt because the love of your life has a different point of view, take a breather and remind yourself that through this exchange of ideas you have the opportunity to create the perfect ceremony for both of you. Trust the process and remember this good practice in actively listening to one another and creating your desired results as loving partners.What is your vision of your marriage?...
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Author: Susyn Reeve



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